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Facebook for Tots?
June 4, 2012 Harry Kimball
The Wall Street Journal reports today that Facebook appears to be considering changes in its age restriction policy with an eye to letting previously excluded under-13-year-olds sign up for a (supervised) account. This isn't opening the floodgates, as it were—it is a response to the online reality that 7.5 million kids under 13 are already on the site, albeit under false pretenses (and often aided and abetted by their parents).
In the Journal, Anton Troianovski and Shayndi Rice write that the social networking giant is testing ways of "connecting children's accounts to their parents' and controls that would allow parents to decide whom their kids can 'friend' and what applications they can use." Oh, and of course, a mechanism for "Facebook and its partners to charge parents for games and other entertainment accessed by their children."
Although the changes are by no means a sure thing, many of these kids are already on Facebook, operating in a world of more "adult" privacy settings even if their parents are close by providing guidance. So what's the harm in granting some sort of "amnesty" to these "illegal aliens" of the Web 2.0 world? You might stand on principle, as Common Sense Media chief James Styer does. "We don't have the proper science and social research to evaluate the potential pros and cons that social-media platforms are doing to teenagers," he tells the Journal, not to mention the tweenage set (or younger!) "The idea that you would go after this segment of the audience when there are concerns about the current audience is mind boggling."
OK, but isn't that naïve? So says Larry Magid, more of a digital pragmatist, who commented on the story over at the Huffington Post.
Whether we like it or not, millions of children are using Facebook, and since there doesn't seem to be a universally effective way to get them off the service, the best and safest strategy would be to provide younger children with a safe, secure and private experience that allows them to interact with verified friends and family members without having to lie about their age.
As you can see, there are good arguments on both sides of this issue. But even if Magid is right, and the wall Styer seems to want to build is an impossible dream, it does mean that families have no option but to submit. I am sure parents will welcome new ways to monitor their children's experiences online. But the same parents would also do well to make sure there are experiences offline to monitor, too. That's just good, even necessary, for kids—particularly the young kids who appear to be entering the fray.
In the end, however, there is the bottom line to think about, and it's hard to stand in the way of those sorts of thoughts. In the past, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg has been incredibly ambivalent about peddling his wares to kids under 13 because of the hassles posed by numerous federal statutes. But there is money to be made from young users, so apparently his company is ready to take the pre-teen plunge.View Comments | Add Comment
Resilience: Making Kids Sesame Street Strong
May 31, 2012 Harry Kimball
The Sesame Workshop just launched a new online "Tool Kit" that aims to help parents foster resilience in young kids no matter what they face, called Little Kids, Big Challenges. The Child Mind Institute was on hand at a Sesame Street gala in New York last night. (That's CMI president Dr. Harold Koplewicz below, with, I believe, Oscar the Grouch.)
This is a great tool for parents of kids who have experienced any sort of disruption, from a move to the loss of a parent. But what really strikes me is how helping children with any challenge, or helping them develop any life skill, is all about communication, about conversation, and about cooperation. The tool kit, which I hope will grow in scope, includes simple activities designed to encourage kids to think about themselves—"How Am I Feeling?"—at the same time that they communicate this information. And it helps them visually understand their support network and the catalog of things they can and have done outside of their comfort zones. (This exercise, called "New Things Tree," is familiar to me from talking to Dr. Jerry Bubrick about treatments for separation anxiety disorder.)
Over on the Sesame Workshop blog, they lay out ambitious goals for the initiative, particularly since it is aimed at 2- to 5-year-olds. "Learning from mistakes; making new friends; resolving conflicts: these are the kinds of early childhood struggles with which Little Children, Big Challenges will help young kids cope." We like to say that kids under 8 are "more B than A;" that is, they respond much better to behavioral approaches than to cognitive ones. And learning from mistakes and resolving conflict are skills that elude many much, much older people. But if we can engage kids early with these tools and boost the resilience required to deal with life's challenges and come out a better person, why not? Best of luck, Sesame Workshop. Now, can you tell me how to get to Sesame Street?View Comments | Add Comment
The Mets' Andres Torres: Living and Succeeding With ADHD
May 25, 2012 Harry Kimball
Yesterday a colleague and I hopped on the 7 train in New York to head out to Citi Field, where the Mets play, and speak for a moment with Andrés Torres, a centerfielder who also happens to have ADHD. A movie is coming out soon, called Gigante, about Torres' life and ascent to the major leagues, which included a battle with poverty as well as with ADHD. In fact, even after he was diagnosed and prescribed medication, he waited years to take it regularly. That's when his life came together.
Amazingly, I thought, he told me that his colleagues in the MLB were all supportive of him as he went about his life with ADHD. "They're OK," he said. "I am who I am, I respect them," and in return "they respect me, they support me, and that's a good thing." And Torres is a sterling role model for kids with ADHD—or really any psychiatric or learning disorder—telling them, in essence, to accept who they are even as they accept the need for ongoing treatment. And to expect to succeed.
Of course, Torres' outlook and the tolerant attitudes of his teammates are not par for the course. While on the 7 train I thought of another ballplayer, the former Atlanta Braves pitcher John Rocker. In 2000 he said this to a reporter, about how he could not possibly play for a New York team:
Imagine having to take the 7 train to the ballpark looking like you're riding through Beirut next to some kid with purple hair, next to some queer with AIDS, right next to some dude who just got out of jail for the fourth time, right next to some 20-year-old mom with four kids. It's depressing...The biggest thing I don't like about New York are the foreigners. You can walk an entire block in Times Square and not hear anybody speaking English.
From the clip below, you can tell that Andrés Torres speaks English, but it's not his first language. However, from meeting him just once, I'm happy to say I'd be just fine sitting next to a role model like him on the 7 train. Here's to a future where people feel more like that, and less like John Rocker.
Check back soon for a feature story on Torres and Gigante.View Comments | Add Comment
Dyslexia-Ville: A New Website for Kids
May 21, 2012 Caroline Miller
Here's a cool project: Peggy Stern, an Academy Award winning filmmaker who calls herself "severely dyslexic," is launching a web site for kids called Dyslexia-Ville. She aims to make the site, which will be very visual, "the launching pad to success for the millions of dyslexics around the world." And she's raising funds the grass-roots way, using Kickstarter, which means that we can all help out.
The site looks exciting and Stern's story is, too. Despite struggling painfully with reading, she graduated from Harvard, and has directed and/or produced a wide range of documentaries, many of them about musicians and artists. In 2006 she won the Academy Award for best animated short for The Moon and the Son: An Imagined Conversation, about a troubled relationship between a father and son.
On Kickstarter she says she wants to help dyslexic children get some of the help and support she was lucky to get. "My grandmother intervened early on, and found an incredible teacher who helped me overcome my frustration, fear, and self-doubt," she writes. "It is from my own experience that I want to assist dyslexic children in achieving their goals."
This came to our attention just days after we heard Brian Grazer, the Oscar-winning producer of many of our favorite films (A Beautiful Mind and many more) and TV shows (Arrested Development and many more) talk about his own struggle with dyslexia.
Grazer, too, talked about his grandmother's role in helping him believe in himself as a child: "I was getting all F's, maybe an occasional D, but I had a grandmother, on the other hand, who was telling me that I was special," he said. "I'd be looking at the report card, and she'd be saying I'm special. And I thought, 'Does she not see this report card?' She just said, 'You're going to find your way through this. Think big, be big,' "
Recognizing how often kids with dyslexia feel discouraged in school, Stern says she wants to make Dyslexia-Ville a safe haven for them. "Dyslexics, especially in a classroom full of non-dyslexics, can feel like lonely travellers entering inhospitable terrain. No more."View Comments | Add Comment
Adam Jeffrey Katz Memorial Lecture
May 17, 2012 Child Mind Institute
Yesterday was the 10th Annual Adam Jeffrey Katz Memorial Lecture at Hunter College's Kaye Playhouse in New York City. The two-part program, designed to raise awareness and educate the public about ADHD and dyslexia, was attended by over 500 people.
Part one featured Dr. Stephen Hinshaw, co-chair of the Scientific Research Council and an expert on attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. Dr. Hinshaw's talk on ADHD covered everything from causes, public health policy, and the persistent stigma associated with the disorder to treatment possibilities and the effectiveness of stimulant medication.
The lecture was followed by a question and answer session with Dr. Harold Koplewicz, president of the Child Mind Institute, and Academy Award-winning producer Brian Grazer. Mr. Grazer spoke about the challenges of growing up with dyslexia. He attributed his successes to being resourceful and pushing himself harder in other aspects of his life. Ultimately, his message was one of resiliency and the importance of championing the successes of children with learning disorders.
In his conversation with Dr. Koplewicz, Mr. Grazer described how his grandmother's belief in him set up conditions for his success in everything from reading to swimming to moviemaking, sounding much like a child treated at the Child Mind Institute might. "As much as all of the forces of reality, meaning empirical evidence, were showing that I wasn't, she was able to overpower me and make me believe that I was special," he said. "So any time I could have a success that was a unique success, I felt like Superman."
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The lecture began in 2002 in memory of Adam Katz, who struggled with ADHD and dyslexia. The Katz family created this living memorial to raise awareness about psychiatric and learning disorders. This event is made possible by the generosity of Ellen and Howard Katz.View Comments | Add Comment
Psychopathy and Nine-Year-Olds
May 15, 2012 Rachel Ehmke
The most emailed article on the New York Times website right now is a story published in the magazine this weekend called "Can You Call a 9-Year-Old a Psychopath?" The title is alarming, as are the real stories related in the piece, and you can see why so many people are riveted by it. In an odd coincidence, This American Life also reaired its psychopathy episode this weekend, making the subject unusually popular (if you don't count nights when Dexter is on TV.)
The blunt answer to the question posed by the Times is no, you can't call a nine-year-old psychopathic since the DSM explicitly rejects anyone under 18. This is because psychiatrists and psychologists believe that children's minds are still malleable and continue to be shaped by a combination of biological and environmental factors even until young adulthood. As it is understood now, psychopathy—also called sociopathy but properly known as antisocial personality disorder in the DSM—is a label that can't be applied to a brain that is still developing. And while we all have some sociopathic characteristics, such as a tendency to lie and manipulate, or be impulsive and narcissistic, children can struggle in particular with these traits during their maturation, especially if they also have some other psychiatric disorder. According to a study by Lee Robins mentioned in the Times, almost 50 percent of the kids who scored high on antisocial qualities did not become psychopathic in their adulthood.
That doesn't mean that some kids don't seem to make a good case for it. The Times story centers on Michael, a boy who scored nearly two standard deviation points outside the normal range for callous-unemotional behavior. Michael is manipulative and alarmingly canny for a nine-year-old. He also seems to lack empathy. His behavior is extreme and certainly indicates a problem, but whether that problem is budding psychopathy is still unclear. His parents have received a laundry list of diagnoses for him over the years, although none seemed to fit exactly.
The tangled and complicated nature of psychiatric symptoms often makes getting a good diagnosis difficult. According to Dr. Alan Ravitz, a Child Mind Institute psychiatrist, what often appears to be antisocial and insensitive behavior is actually a manifestation of another psychiatric disorder. Dr. Ravitz says he has treated patients who seem to be sociopathic, but after treating their underlying disorder (depression, paranoia, oppositional defiant disorder, ADHD) the apparent sociopathy is gone. When I spoke to Dr. Ravitz he emphasized the importance of recognizing true antisocial personality disorder and applying the best resources available to treating it, but he noted, "I think we should be slow to diagnose sociopathy because it can sometimes be a stand-in for past failures in treatment. It can distract us from the real psychiatric disorder for which we already have effective treatment."
Of course, the other piece to this story is how badly we need more research on antisocial personality disorder. Some work has already been done, but not enough. This is partially because psychopathy is incredibly rare, but it's also because it often leads to criminality. As a psychologist told the Times, "No one is sympathetic to the mother of a psychopath."
But thoughtful media coverage is the enemy of stigma, and this article has inspired many supportive comments on the Times website. Hopefully the story will help humanize an often inhuman-seeming disorder. So many psychiatric disorders in children have proved responsive to early intervention that we can't stop pushing for some way to help these children and their desperate families.View Comments | Add Comment
The TIME Breastfeeding Cover Brouhaha
May 14, 2012 Caroline Miller
It was quite the Mother's Day cover, a hot-looking young mom posing with a kid in camo pants nonchalantly standing on a chair, attached to his mother's breast. It didn't even need the provocative headline—"Are you mom enough?"—to cause a sensation (and of course be knocked off all over the web, with stand-ins for the mom from John Boehner to Steven Tyler). It's as if TIME magazine wanted to simultaneously offend those who might find the image tasteless and those who might find the parent-baiting offensive. A double whammy.
The story itself revisited the pros and cons of what's called "attachment parenting," the extreme child-rearing philosophy that has been around for 20 years and has gradually worked its way, at least in watered-down form, into the mainstream. The three key tenets, writes TIME's Kate Pickert, "are breast-feeding (sometimes into toddlerhood), co-sleeping (inviting babies into the parental bed or pulling a bassinet alongside it) and 'baby wearing,' in which infants are literally attached to their mothers via slings." The theory is that the more time children spend in physical contact with their mothers in the first few years the more secure and happy they will be later.
As the story notes, this theory has been knocked about a great deal over the years, and there is no evidence whatsoever to back the notion that this literal closeness has any advantages for a child's development over other forms of parental love and attention. It's interesting to visit Dr. William Sears, now 72, who, with his wife Martha, hatched the philosophy, along with seven children of their own.
Seems harmless enough, except for the obsessiveness with which it's being wielded in this era of perfection parenting—no effort is too great to create the ultimate child. If it's possible to be self-sacrificing and narcissistic at the same time, this would be one way to do it.
Above all the story illustrates the downside of competitive parenting, with manifestos like this being used to achieve superiority over other families in which women don't choose, and/or can't afford, to be stay-at-home moms.
As Donna Wick writes on the Freedom Institute's blog, it's important to resist letting passion for your children be manipulated into a judgmental stance about other parents. It's one of the things that makes parenting in the 21st century harder than it needs to be, whether or not you buy into attachment.View Comments | Add Comment
Managing Behavior: Tips for Parents and Teachers
May 11, 2012 Child Mind Institute
Our second facebook event was a presentation by Dr. Melanie Fernandez where she presented tips and strategies for parents and teachers on managing difficult behvaior.
If you missed our live facebook talk, you can view it here:
Or download the slides here.View Comments | Add Comment
Kids With Differences Face Outsized Challenges
May 10, 2012 Lyn Pollard
Last night I had the honor of attending a Speak Up for Kids talk, one of many that are taking place across the country in honor of Children's Mental Health Awareness week. As a volunteer (and the parent of two kids with differences), I've been working with the Child Mind Institute and the Dallas Academy to both plan the event and to draw parents in my local community to it.
While the topic "A Parent's Guide to Bullying" drew parents and educators to the event, once we entered the Q&A session, the discussion quickly turned to our children with differences, who are often targeted by bullies. I was blown away by the honesty and reality of our discussion, and was reminded that I am not alone in this fight to provide my two children with an appropriate education in a safe learning environment.
Parent after parent talked about how their child has been victimized, not just in the form of bullying, but by being denied appropriate accommodations and special education services on their child's public school campus.
Dr. Jen Crawley at the Dallas Academy.
One parent, a single mom and active military member, spoke through tears about how her extremely bright 7-year-old son is being "singled out" daily by his teacher due to his severe ADHD. He also has problems socializing, describes himself as "weird" and has been repeatedly bullied. Yet, after multiple meetings with both her campus and district administrators, she had not been provided with information about her child's rights under 504 or been informed about the possibility of an IDEA (special education) assessment to determine if her child is eligible for special services.
Another parent, a former special education teacher, shared about how her 14-year-old son has been denied protection under IDEA. Despite having provided the school district with three separate doctor's reports stating that her son has Asperger's syndrome, her son's IDEA assessment showed that he "did not meet the eligibility criteria" for services. Also through tears this mom went on to describe how her son, a constant victim of bullying, ultimately "became the bully" when he began displaying aggressive behavior. "What do I do?" she pleaded to our group, explaining that she has already pulled him out and had begun home-schooling.
According to the National Center for Learning Disabilities, kids with differences and special needs have a greater than 60% chance of being bullied. But, the statistic we don't hear is the one quantifying how many children in this country are not receiving the services they need for learning differences and special needs in our nation's schools, despite having both federal and state laws in place to protect them.
I am hopeful that the Speak Up for Kids events will spark a larger conversation across our country about protecting our kids with differences. However, it's going to take a lot more than talk to motivate our nation's leaders to address the concerns of parents who are begging for appropriate accommodations, services and protection for children who draw outside the lines, and are too often overlooked and underserved in our nation's schools.
Perhaps the question is, when we speak up for kids, who is listening?
Lyn Pollard, a mother and advocate, blogs at Different Doodles, among other outlets.View Comments | Add Comment
Parenting in the Digital Age Tweetchat
May 9, 2012 Child Mind Institute
Yesterday, Dr. Ron Steingard was joined by Caroline Knorr, Parenting Editor of Common Sense Media for a tweet chat in honor of National Children's Mental Health Awareness Week. If you missed it, a partial transcript is below.
Also join us for: A live Facebook talk on Friday, May 11th with Dr. Melanie Fernandez presenting "The Difficult Child: Managing Behavior."View Comments | Add Comment