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School Bus Strike Hits Our Most Vulnerable Children
Jan. 21, 2013 | Beth Arky
As the New York City school bus strike enters Week 2, it's clear that the 54,000 special-needs children and their already overtaxed parents are bearing the brunt of the walkout. It's important to understand that for many of these families, the school bus is not just a ride to school. It's a crucial piece of a support system for kids who can't just jump on the subway—in fact, they may not be able to walk—and parents who can't hold down jobs unless their children are in reliable, competent, and caring hands.
It's not unusual that the only appropriate school for a child with complex developmental delays and resulting behavior problems might be an hour from home, so thousands of parents are missing work to endure long, arduous commutes, or keeping their kids home. But the personal cost doesn't end there. As Marie Myung-Ok Lee writes in a candid and thoughtful piece in The Nation ("A Good Matron Is Hard to Find"), children and parents alike are also missing the continuity and calm provided by experienced drivers and matrons now walking the picket line.
Lee, whose 13-year-old son, J, has serious medical challenges and developmental disabilities, including autism, has come to depend on J's excellent driver and matron: "Our son indeed relies on them to be consistent, calm, patient and firm."
And that's not easy. "On bad days, our son can bite, head-butt, scream or pinch—fairly typical behaviors for autism, but they can be shocking when one first encounters them," Lee writes. And because of J's gastrointestinal problems, he can have toileting issues. "It can be difficult not to take such assaults personally or want to retaliate," she notes, "which is why experience and maturity needs to be taken into account."
While experience doesn't guarantee expertise and sensitivity, Lee says it improves the odds; J's driver and matron each have worked with special-needs children for 18 years. Like many parents, Lee considers them valued players on J's team: "We all work together to keep our son calm, but when he's not, they know what do to. No amount of training and video-watching can prepare a driver for what it's actually like navigating New York City traffic with the bedlam of one (or more) children throwing a tantrum behind her." She also applauds her driver's "great communication skills with parents; she calls when she needs our input on our son's behaviors or medical issues. She and the matron make our son feel safe, which in turn helps us to feel safe."
As the city and the unions continue their stalemate and questions arise about the cost of bussing special-needs students, Lee brings it down to the most human level: It's the children, "who have little voice and are often ignored or scorned in society," who are losing the most. Those who continue to attend school may be missing hours because of long commutes, while parents who are keeping their children home worry that they may regress as they miss out on the routine, socialization and therapies school provides.
Lisa Quinones-Fontanez, another autism mom, explains in an open letter to Mayor Bloomberg and Local 1181 why 7-year-old Norrin, whose school is 22 miles from the family's Bronx apartment, spent the third day of the strike with her at her job as an administrative assistant, rather than at school. She writes that she has already used up two vacation days staying home with him, her husband, a court officer, can't take time off; and she needs the rest of her days for doctor's appointments and IEP meetings. She also needs to keep her job, and she's worried about that. "This is beyond a stressful situation," she writes. We hope both the union and the mayor understand that.